”Patience is not the ability to wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.” – Joyce Meyer

I think there’s a point in life where everybody come to realize that time, as subtle and invisible as it is, can be one of the greatest teacher in our lives. Often taken for granted, we sometime use it however we want and neglect to cherish and manage it as it should be. Or worst, we don’t know how to use it at all. I think we best acknowledge this when we take a moment to navigate into our past, from time to time, only to find out as a result that we should have been more serious with anything that was presented to us. Of course, you will be proud of any accomplishments and good deeds in which you have put efforts and energy, but a lot of times, you’ll find yourself asking why you haven’t fully profited from any opportunity that was given to you. Thus, I know that for many, even myself, if we could go back in the past to fix a couple of things here and there, we wouldn’t hesitate to do it. Today, the result of the usage we did with our time is in front of us. Some will feel satisfied with most of it and maybe just a little upset about the other parts. Without not even a bit of an extremists’ behaviour, others just can’t seem to find satisfaction anywhere. Either way, how can you deal with this, without having to compromise your future?

See, time is time and it cannot be redeemed. No one can compete with it, not one human being can have more of it than another. In fact, I think that time is one of the most equal element that can be given to everyone on earth. Who can change the fact that a day contains 24 hours in it? Or that a year is summed with 365 days in total? Time is the same for everyone. What makes a difference is how we use it. It definitely takes time to recover from the past, or to have what we want. Often times, our goals will take more than 24 hours to come to terms. It will take time; whether it is because attaining that specific goal also demands a change of character or a profound understanding of the objective (oh yes! Those can definitely take time). It is also time that makes us accept our past and be proud of who we are today, so we never want to go back and try to fix things. As fast moving as we can sometime perceive it, time is invariable.What changes is the attitude you have towards it which can help you understand and accept in a better way where you come from, where you are now, and where you’re going.

Some people say that time is their worst enemy or that time always seems to be against them. They say this only because they don’t yet know how to master it. I am a true Christian that believes it is God who masters it all. Although, it is important to understand that God will not do it all for us; we have a role to play as well. There are elements we have to implement into our personality/attitude if we want our time to be used in the best possible way. Patience is one of the main. This is the key element we have to develop in ourselves if we want to be able to face the times that come in our way in a more positive manner. And this, no matter how confusing and frustrating it may come. Like any other qualities, having patience and knowing how and when to use it won’t be gained overnight. Of course and again, it’ll take some time but also years and years of practice. When you decide to have a ”better attitude while waiting”, many opportunities will be opened to you. Don’t worry if you fail at some of them, that’s how you get to analyze yourself in order for you to know what you have to change about your attitude.

Hopefully, it won’t surprise you if I tell you that patience doesn’t come alone in the process of dealing with time. Let’s take a very banal example. You want to buy yourself a car but unfortunately, you do not have the sufficient amount of money to buy it right away (let’s say that you have the exact amount of the car’s price). In the meantime, you’ll have to work a little more. In this situation, not only do you need patience to wait properly, but you’ll also need some understanding i.e. why you actually have to wait. The understanding behind this is if you wait enough until you have the money, not only you’ll have the car, but you won’t be broke after you buy it. I analyzed this in pieces for you to be able to visualize it, but it’s not that complicated. Usually when one comes, they all come along. Don’t be so quick to judge or be discourage, try to understand where your situation comes from and determine from that if you can take advantage of it. Writing of which, taking advantage of a situation can also be a great mean for dealing with time. It’ll help you focus more on what you can get from it rather than having to be frustrated and stressed out.

So here, you have a better idea of how you can implement patience into your attitude. Whether it is because you want to face your past with a more optimistic thinking or that you want to be less stressed out into achieving something, patience can be a great ”tool”.  With the right training, time will give it to you!

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“If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.” – Frank A. Clark

Wander back for a moment and try to remember the last time you had set yourself a goal (whatever it may be) and you actually ended up getting away with it with nothing trying to stop you in the long-run. If you can recall a time when this happened, you’d have to tell me your secret, and I’m also thinking, maybe you’re from another world. If you can’t, know that it’s totally normal because obstacles ² are part of every goal-achieving process.

Here’s a little scenario. After telling yourself that from now on, you’re going to do everything to lose that extra 10 pounds and that your first action is to go hit a small 30 minutes jog outside, here comes the rain. Great! Seeing this, you now have two options: 1) go back to bed, or 2) find another alternative where you’ll have that jog done despite of what mother nature has decided.

Asking yourself why it rained on that day, when you were 100% ready to hit the ground is vanity, a waste of energy and will bring you absolutely nowhere. Only your frustration will be fed and we all know you won’t get rid of that 10 pounds by doing so. However, what’s important and crucial is your attitude toward that barrier. The option you’ll choose between staying home or finding an alternative, will strongly depend on your attitude, level of motivation and self-discipline control. But your attitude firstly, because it is the core foundation of the two others.

Surely, you’ll have to condition your mind through this. A lot of people try to avoid and not think about this major part of  the whole achievement matter when they engage themselves into something. Preparing yourself and your mind for obstacles on the way should be equally done as to when setting your goals, finding your motivation or writing down your self-discipline list. Clearly, you’ll never know for certain what that hindrance will be like. However, the fact you already know (prepared) that something will try to block you from having what you want is more likely to lower the surprise effect that can often lead to discouragement. Now, when that drag is in action, if you take it too personally, you might give up. You have to think of it as something that was purposely planned in the process of achieving your goal. As if, it was already there.  If it rained on that day, no, it’s not because mother nature don’t like you; remember that the world does not revolves around you. You might have never thought it that way, but obstacles are for you to decide what you want to do with them. In other words, they don’t control you, ever. You control them by choosing what tool you’d like them to be in your life. Usually, depending on the choice you make, they can serve as two main things:

1) Discouragements – when you give up

2) Character fortifier – when you overcome

After choosing one of these two, for example when you decide to overcome, they can also serve as many others like the discover of self-capacities and personality, the motivation to do even greater things, high self-esteem, etc. On a darker note, when giving up, they can build up fear of trying again (because you do not want to be disappointed, again), low self-esteem, closeness, etc. Now, as much as obstacles are important to be dealt with, do not make them you primarily focus by trying to make a plan or concentrating too hard on how you’ll defeat them. Usually, when obstacles come, they come ”on the now”, STAT! Which means retro-action has to be ”on the now” also. It almost comes naturally and with practice, but preparation is the main key.

B.C. Forbes once stated that, “History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.

Note that he said, ”because they refused”. You get to choose, not obstacles, not anyone else. You.

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Obstacle ²: One that opposes, stands in the way of, or holds up progress.

Self-discipline can be defined as the ability to motivate oneself in spite of a negative emotional state. Qualities associated with self-discipline include willpower, hard work, and persistence.

After reading this quote, maybe you have a better idea of why I decided to make a post on this word and what it implies. Basically, self-discipline is one of the greatest keys that will help you accomplish what you want in life. A lot (even myself) have been engaging into things thinking that the only thing they would need is the desire to accomplish something or remind themselves constantly what reward they’ll get in the end (which can be both classified in your motivation). Don’t get me wrong, these two elements are precious when it comes to realizing what you want. However, they’re not solid enough.

Discipline is often seen as a form of negative or pessimist word. Well, I think it can be associated with one of these simply because of the way we’ve been raised. When you weren’t allowed to chew gum in class or to talk to your friends while your teacher was giving explanations in front of the class, for some, it was one of the most frustrating things because these rules or disciplinary sort of kept you from ”doing what you wanted to do, when you wanted to them”. Growing older, we only have that same perspective of things : self-discipline is torture. Thus, we kind of run away from it. You definitely have to change your mind about that one because despite of how we see it, self-discipline is very important when you want to do something. If you go through something and the main idea you have in mind is that it’s going to be hard or that you’re not going to able to control yourself from falling into any kind of temptations that are being presented to you, it won’t work.

Self-discipline is being able to say yes or no to anything legitimately correct that will bring you one step closer to achieving your goal. Let’s take a banal example. You’re on a regimen to lose weight and there are certain type of foods that are restricted to you. One day, your friend invites you to McDonald’s. If eating McDonald’s is part of your restrictions and if you have no self-discipline, you’ll say yes right away and just forget about your goal.  If you say no because of your goal than you have self-discipline.  Basically, you have to see it as things you have to do in order to achieve what you want. You just have to set a list of do’s and don’ts and follow through with them. Usually, in whatever I engage myself into, I always follow these five simple steps:

1. Set the goal (it has to be something you truly want and meaningful to you or else, you’ll end up giving up)

2. Find a motivation (why you’re doing this, what reward you’ll get in the end, what changes it’ll bring to your life)

3. Self-discipline list (dress a list of things that you have to do, set restrictions and FOLLOW THEM)

4. Have a positive attitude (it’ll help no give up when obstacles come, because they will come!)

5. Be willing and put the efforts

If you thoroughly apply this, you’ll be winning, I assure you!