Choose the kings!

March 12, 2012

”Do you see a man skilled in his work? He will serve before kings; he will not serve before obscure men” Proverbs 22:29

This verse couldn’t have been more relevant as I remember encountering quite a few people constantly dictating what they would like to see accomplished in their lives.  Or others, simply unable to find a way to succeed in whatever they would engage themselves into. When this become frequent, you start asking yourself some questions. For instance, why does it seem so hard for him to get what he wants, especially when it seems like he’s doing everything he can. Oh so many reasons can justify this, but if we look it up according to this verse above, sometimes, it requires that we need to learn from the manners of a king!

What does it mean exactly to serve before kings/obscure men? If you’re not too familiar with the Bible, this verse can have several meanings (meaning as to how we can apply it in different areas of life such as the work field, school, family labours, etc.) and does not exclusively targets the precaution we need to have when choosing the people we befriend with. This verse is found in the Old Testament which is put in a context of kings having servants at their commands. In that time, you could learn many lessons and develop a wise thinking and attitude by actually being ”labelled” as a servant who’d work for supremacy. And that learning would only bear fruits if  only that same supremacy was wise itself;  so their servants could  be likewise.  Yes, slaves could learn from their masters. It all depended of the nature of the master himself and the level of qualities of duties given to the servant. The work and tasks given were not to be seen as a burden, if wanted to take lesson from, but as an opportunity to take example from their ways of doing, their manners. Have you not heard that the more time you spend with someone, the more you are to think alike, do alike, speak alike and whatnot? Well, it is true to some extent.

Simply put, you have a better chance at moving forward in your life and you’re more likely to be ”…skilled in [your] work” if you choose the people you hang out’ with and take lessons from accordingly. I do not need to go as far and as deep into the study of social psychology or behavioural science to prove you that your ultimate entourage have a direct effect on your personality and on the way you think. Personal experience itself is enough to show it. I also believe that this is nothing new to you as I’m sure a lot of you have heard the famous adage that says, ”Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are […what you’ve become, what you do in life, etc]”, which can also be applied to the topic. On the same note, whether you are serving before kings or before obscure men can be a great indicator as to why you’re where you are now. Some people do not see the danger in choosing their friends randomly, with no analysis done. Or choosing who they work for without not even a little background check. In fact, making a wiseful choice of the people who you decide to be in your life, as a friend, a confident, a soul mate, etc., can make you benefit from many opportunities where you can learn from and in same, guard you from many useless disappointments.

Servants and kings can still be found in the world today, but a little bit less significantly than before. Thus, if we would have to apply this verse in our modern lives today, serving before kings would inclusively mean choosing with a careful manner  the people that are likely to have an influence on us. Serving before kings could mean that you are choosing the most ”skilled friends” to be in your life, that you’re working for the wisest and most diligent business company in town.  You’ll note that one does not grow only from taking examples from joyful experiences. Sometimes, falling is necessary. Lessons can be taught from mistakes of others which can warn us not to do the same by seeing the consequences endured. Although, it is better to keep company with those who can have a positive effect on us as opposed to ones that can bring us negativity. Whenever you feel like giving up at something, the positive vibe surrounding you and the wise counsels from your ”kings” can be just enough to give you that one more step into accomplishing what you wish to!

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”Patience is not the ability to wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.” – Joyce Meyer

I think there’s a point in life where everybody come to realize that time, as subtle and invisible as it is, can be one of the greatest teacher in our lives. Often taken for granted, we sometime use it however we want and neglect to cherish and manage it as it should be. Or worst, we don’t know how to use it at all. I think we best acknowledge this when we take a moment to navigate into our past, from time to time, only to find out as a result that we should have been more serious with anything that was presented to us. Of course, you will be proud of any accomplishments and good deeds in which you have put efforts and energy, but a lot of times, you’ll find yourself asking why you haven’t fully profited from any opportunity that was given to you. Thus, I know that for many, even myself, if we could go back in the past to fix a couple of things here and there, we wouldn’t hesitate to do it. Today, the result of the usage we did with our time is in front of us. Some will feel satisfied with most of it and maybe just a little upset about the other parts. Without not even a bit of an extremists’ behaviour, others just can’t seem to find satisfaction anywhere. Either way, how can you deal with this, without having to compromise your future?

See, time is time and it cannot be redeemed. No one can compete with it, not one human being can have more of it than another. In fact, I think that time is one of the most equal element that can be given to everyone on earth. Who can change the fact that a day contains 24 hours in it? Or that a year is summed with 365 days in total? Time is the same for everyone. What makes a difference is how we use it. It definitely takes time to recover from the past, or to have what we want. Often times, our goals will take more than 24 hours to come to terms. It will take time; whether it is because attaining that specific goal also demands a change of character or a profound understanding of the objective (oh yes! Those can definitely take time). It is also time that makes us accept our past and be proud of who we are today, so we never want to go back and try to fix things. As fast moving as we can sometime perceive it, time is invariable.What changes is the attitude you have towards it which can help you understand and accept in a better way where you come from, where you are now, and where you’re going.

Some people say that time is their worst enemy or that time always seems to be against them. They say this only because they don’t yet know how to master it. I am a true Christian that believes it is God who masters it all. Although, it is important to understand that God will not do it all for us; we have a role to play as well. There are elements we have to implement into our personality/attitude if we want our time to be used in the best possible way. Patience is one of the main. This is the key element we have to develop in ourselves if we want to be able to face the times that come in our way in a more positive manner. And this, no matter how confusing and frustrating it may come. Like any other qualities, having patience and knowing how and when to use it won’t be gained overnight. Of course and again, it’ll take some time but also years and years of practice. When you decide to have a ”better attitude while waiting”, many opportunities will be opened to you. Don’t worry if you fail at some of them, that’s how you get to analyze yourself in order for you to know what you have to change about your attitude.

Hopefully, it won’t surprise you if I tell you that patience doesn’t come alone in the process of dealing with time. Let’s take a very banal example. You want to buy yourself a car but unfortunately, you do not have the sufficient amount of money to buy it right away (let’s say that you have the exact amount of the car’s price). In the meantime, you’ll have to work a little more. In this situation, not only do you need patience to wait properly, but you’ll also need some understanding i.e. why you actually have to wait. The understanding behind this is if you wait enough until you have the money, not only you’ll have the car, but you won’t be broke after you buy it. I analyzed this in pieces for you to be able to visualize it, but it’s not that complicated. Usually when one comes, they all come along. Don’t be so quick to judge or be discourage, try to understand where your situation comes from and determine from that if you can take advantage of it. Writing of which, taking advantage of a situation can also be a great mean for dealing with time. It’ll help you focus more on what you can get from it rather than having to be frustrated and stressed out.

So here, you have a better idea of how you can implement patience into your attitude. Whether it is because you want to face your past with a more optimistic thinking or that you want to be less stressed out into achieving something, patience can be a great ”tool”.  With the right training, time will give it to you!