“If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.” – Frank A. Clark

Wander back for a moment and try to remember the last time you had set yourself a goal (whatever it may be) and you actually ended up getting away with it with nothing trying to stop you in the long-run. If you can recall a time when this happened, you’d have to tell me your secret, and I’m also thinking, maybe you’re from another world. If you can’t, know that it’s totally normal because obstacles ² are part of every goal-achieving process.

Here’s a little scenario. After telling yourself that from now on, you’re going to do everything to lose that extra 10 pounds and that your first action is to go hit a small 30 minutes jog outside, here comes the rain. Great! Seeing this, you now have two options: 1) go back to bed, or 2) find another alternative where you’ll have that jog done despite of what mother nature has decided.

Asking yourself why it rained on that day, when you were 100% ready to hit the ground is vanity, a waste of energy and will bring you absolutely nowhere. Only your frustration will be fed and we all know you won’t get rid of that 10 pounds by doing so. However, what’s important and crucial is your attitude toward that barrier. The option you’ll choose between staying home or finding an alternative, will strongly depend on your attitude, level of motivation and self-discipline control. But your attitude firstly, because it is the core foundation of the two others.

Surely, you’ll have to condition your mind through this. A lot of people try to avoid and not think about this major part of  the whole achievement matter when they engage themselves into something. Preparing yourself and your mind for obstacles on the way should be equally done as to when setting your goals, finding your motivation or writing down your self-discipline list. Clearly, you’ll never know for certain what that hindrance will be like. However, the fact you already know (prepared) that something will try to block you from having what you want is more likely to lower the surprise effect that can often lead to discouragement. Now, when that drag is in action, if you take it too personally, you might give up. You have to think of it as something that was purposely planned in the process of achieving your goal. As if, it was already there.  If it rained on that day, no, it’s not because mother nature don’t like you; remember that the world does not revolves around you. You might have never thought it that way, but obstacles are for you to decide what you want to do with them. In other words, they don’t control you, ever. You control them by choosing what tool you’d like them to be in your life. Usually, depending on the choice you make, they can serve as two main things:

1) Discouragements – when you give up

2) Character fortifier – when you overcome

After choosing one of these two, for example when you decide to overcome, they can also serve as many others like the discover of self-capacities and personality, the motivation to do even greater things, high self-esteem, etc. On a darker note, when giving up, they can build up fear of trying again (because you do not want to be disappointed, again), low self-esteem, closeness, etc. Now, as much as obstacles are important to be dealt with, do not make them you primarily focus by trying to make a plan or concentrating too hard on how you’ll defeat them. Usually, when obstacles come, they come ”on the now”, STAT! Which means retro-action has to be ”on the now” also. It almost comes naturally and with practice, but preparation is the main key.

B.C. Forbes once stated that, “History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.

Note that he said, ”because they refused”. You get to choose, not obstacles, not anyone else. You.

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Obstacle ²: One that opposes, stands in the way of, or holds up progress.