“If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.” – Frank A. Clark

Wander back for a moment and try to remember the last time you had set yourself a goal (whatever it may be) and you actually ended up getting away with it with nothing trying to stop you in the long-run. If you can recall a time when this happened, you’d have to tell me your secret, and I’m also thinking, maybe you’re from another world. If you can’t, know that it’s totally normal because obstacles ² are part of every goal-achieving process.

Here’s a little scenario. After telling yourself that from now on, you’re going to do everything to lose that extra 10 pounds and that your first action is to go hit a small 30 minutes jog outside, here comes the rain. Great! Seeing this, you now have two options: 1) go back to bed, or 2) find another alternative where you’ll have that jog done despite of what mother nature has decided.

Asking yourself why it rained on that day, when you were 100% ready to hit the ground is vanity, a waste of energy and will bring you absolutely nowhere. Only your frustration will be fed and we all know you won’t get rid of that 10 pounds by doing so. However, what’s important and crucial is your attitude toward that barrier. The option you’ll choose between staying home or finding an alternative, will strongly depend on your attitude, level of motivation and self-discipline control. But your attitude firstly, because it is the core foundation of the two others.

Surely, you’ll have to condition your mind through this. A lot of people try to avoid and not think about this major part of  the whole achievement matter when they engage themselves into something. Preparing yourself and your mind for obstacles on the way should be equally done as to when setting your goals, finding your motivation or writing down your self-discipline list. Clearly, you’ll never know for certain what that hindrance will be like. However, the fact you already know (prepared) that something will try to block you from having what you want is more likely to lower the surprise effect that can often lead to discouragement. Now, when that drag is in action, if you take it too personally, you might give up. You have to think of it as something that was purposely planned in the process of achieving your goal. As if, it was already there.  If it rained on that day, no, it’s not because mother nature don’t like you; remember that the world does not revolves around you. You might have never thought it that way, but obstacles are for you to decide what you want to do with them. In other words, they don’t control you, ever. You control them by choosing what tool you’d like them to be in your life. Usually, depending on the choice you make, they can serve as two main things:

1) Discouragements – when you give up

2) Character fortifier – when you overcome

After choosing one of these two, for example when you decide to overcome, they can also serve as many others like the discover of self-capacities and personality, the motivation to do even greater things, high self-esteem, etc. On a darker note, when giving up, they can build up fear of trying again (because you do not want to be disappointed, again), low self-esteem, closeness, etc. Now, as much as obstacles are important to be dealt with, do not make them you primarily focus by trying to make a plan or concentrating too hard on how you’ll defeat them. Usually, when obstacles come, they come ”on the now”, STAT! Which means retro-action has to be ”on the now” also. It almost comes naturally and with practice, but preparation is the main key.

B.C. Forbes once stated that, “History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.

Note that he said, ”because they refused”. You get to choose, not obstacles, not anyone else. You.

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Obstacle ²: One that opposes, stands in the way of, or holds up progress.

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Self-discipline can be defined as the ability to motivate oneself in spite of a negative emotional state. Qualities associated with self-discipline include willpower, hard work, and persistence.

After reading this quote, maybe you have a better idea of why I decided to make a post on this word and what it implies. Basically, self-discipline is one of the greatest keys that will help you accomplish what you want in life. A lot (even myself) have been engaging into things thinking that the only thing they would need is the desire to accomplish something or remind themselves constantly what reward they’ll get in the end (which can be both classified in your motivation). Don’t get me wrong, these two elements are precious when it comes to realizing what you want. However, they’re not solid enough.

Discipline is often seen as a form of negative or pessimist word. Well, I think it can be associated with one of these simply because of the way we’ve been raised. When you weren’t allowed to chew gum in class or to talk to your friends while your teacher was giving explanations in front of the class, for some, it was one of the most frustrating things because these rules or disciplinary sort of kept you from ”doing what you wanted to do, when you wanted to them”. Growing older, we only have that same perspective of things : self-discipline is torture. Thus, we kind of run away from it. You definitely have to change your mind about that one because despite of how we see it, self-discipline is very important when you want to do something. If you go through something and the main idea you have in mind is that it’s going to be hard or that you’re not going to able to control yourself from falling into any kind of temptations that are being presented to you, it won’t work.

Self-discipline is being able to say yes or no to anything legitimately correct that will bring you one step closer to achieving your goal. Let’s take a banal example. You’re on a regimen to lose weight and there are certain type of foods that are restricted to you. One day, your friend invites you to McDonald’s. If eating McDonald’s is part of your restrictions and if you have no self-discipline, you’ll say yes right away and just forget about your goal.  If you say no because of your goal than you have self-discipline.  Basically, you have to see it as things you have to do in order to achieve what you want. You just have to set a list of do’s and don’ts and follow through with them. Usually, in whatever I engage myself into, I always follow these five simple steps:

1. Set the goal (it has to be something you truly want and meaningful to you or else, you’ll end up giving up)

2. Find a motivation (why you’re doing this, what reward you’ll get in the end, what changes it’ll bring to your life)

3. Self-discipline list (dress a list of things that you have to do, set restrictions and FOLLOW THEM)

4. Have a positive attitude (it’ll help no give up when obstacles come, because they will come!)

5. Be willing and put the efforts

If you thoroughly apply this, you’ll be winning, I assure you!

On to achieving

February 5, 2012

Hey everyone!

I am very happy that I am finally starting this blog. It has been a project that I’ve been wanting to do for quite awhile now, but with the lack of time I had in my hands in the past few months, it was a bit difficult  for me to launch it. I still have a lot on my plate, but I figured having a blog on the side wouldn’t hurt anyone.

Now, you’re probably wondering ” What will this blog be crack-a-lacking about exactly?” Well, the title of  it is not  ”Achievings” for no reason. I named it this way because here will be a place where you’ll find useful and thoughtful posts on how to go from wanting something to having it. I’ve encountered quite a few people here and there complaining about how they always start something but never finish it. How they always make plans, but those never really come to terms . Don’t get me wrong! I’ve been a victim too. Thing is, as long as you don’t know why and what is keeping you from having/accomplishing these things in your life, chances are, it’ll always be the same. You’ll always leave everything for tomorrow, find the most enchanting excuses and end up not realizing what you once wanted. Whether is it as small as a pea (like getting rid of the ton of clothes you have in your closet) or as big as the universe (like paying off your credit card), projects are projects and you cannot run to the mountains if you haven’t been on the hills first. Being able to deal with small projects will only prepare you for the bigger ones. So on that note, it is always good to get the most out of them by not neglecting them.

I think what makes this blog so unique and interesting is the fact that I have no PhD  in psychology, philosophy or anytime like such. I don’t have that type of perspective. I’m actually studying in office system technology which I think can be applied to such topic, but then again. I’m just a simple girl who, with a full baggage of experiences and a Christian-based knowledge, have started to figure it out and decided to put it out there. I have found myself in many situations where I would always have some projects or even activities I wanted to do and for some reasons, nothing happened. Let me tell you that I didn’t need no certification to be tired of doing so and finding a way out. This blog makes things simple, from a simple perspective.

I hope you’ll be able to relate on my posts and that they”ll be useful.

On to achieving!